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Alternative Lifestyles- Right or Wrong?

A lot has changed since I first started dating. People are now engaging in what is called alternative lifestyles. In certain areas of the country, and the world, these lifestyles have become the norm. These lifestyles include: Swinging, same sex relationships, Polyamory groups, friends with benefits, fetish groups, and the list is infinite.

I’m personally very intrigued by the changes. I am not surprised anymore when I hear of something new regarding a new “lifestyle” I would like to say “I’ve heard it all” But, I haven’t. I’m sure there are many new groups springing up as I write this article.

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How to Say No – And Mean It

Have you ever been in a situation where a guy was too persistent? Was he oblivious to your feelings? Did he try to get physical with you when you didn’t want him to? This article will show you how you can defend yourself peacefully, and have strength and confidence in doing so.

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Finding My Life Partner-How Will I know?

If you’ve been in the dating scene for awhile, you know how difficult it can be to find the right person. It can be very unsettling to discover later he has rules or values that don’t correspond with your beliefs. You’re probably wishing you knew this earlier before you got too involved. I have a simple method that can help you find out what you need to know beforehand.

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Monogamy Versus Having an Affair

If you are single and dating, you can probably relate to what I am about to say. If you are married, then this information will help you reinforce your outlook on monogamy. If you had an affair, or thinking about having one, you better read this.

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Sexless Marriages-An Overview of Love Making


Statistics show forty million people in the US live in sexless marriages. The divorce rate is over 50% in the US. Married people have sex twice as much as single people. There are more single people than married people in the US. 48% of women say they fake organism. I would presume there is less than 150 million married people in the US. So that would mean about 1/3 of those that are married do not have sex. Wow! What does all this mean?

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How to Attract a Perfect Mate-Loneliness be Gone

I will describe a very unconventional but effective way for you to attract the person you always wanted. Someone whom you have always dreamed about, but thought it was impossible, and now you’ll find out it is possible. This technique can also be used to attract other things in your life, including money.

Did you know your thinking is the reason you can’t find a mate. Yes, the thought process is the key to everything you’re attracting, including money. I will show you how to improve your thinking so you can attract what you want. You are already attracting what you put your attention to, so make it something you want instead of what you don’t want.

What you put your attention to is the key element here. If your attention is on: why can’t I find a mate? Then you have already roll played it your mind that it is difficult to find one. Let’s change that, let’s reprogram what you put your attention too and your life will chance drastically.

Out there somewhere is a partner who is a perfect match for you, and that’s what you want, right? Are your dreams aligned with your thoughts and actions? We will find out.

My vision to find the perfect mate is that we get along well. We bring the best out of each other, and we have a great time together We allow each other to be who we are without judgment, and we grow and expand together to new levels of being and understanding. We’re both self-sufficient, but together we are one. It’s exciting thinking about it, and I can feel myself being in that place.

If this wonderful person hasn’t manifested yet, it’s because you’re not ready. What does “not being ready mean?” It means you’re not aligned with you thoughts yet. You are still in: maybe that person is the one, or maybe that one, or maybe that one. Or let’s play that game, I like you, but I will pretend not too.

When you’re ready, you won’t have to play any games, you will know, and they will know when it’s right. You will both feel it without question. Sure, there might be some question, but that is your logical mind talking. Your feelings know better. So let’s see how you can attract that person you want, and how they want you.

You will attract into your life what your dominate feeling is. You’re supposed to get what you want, and what you want and what you believe is possible, should be in alignment with each other. Wanting something and believing it’s hard to get or impossible to get is sabotaging what you want. It’s neutralizing what could be delivered to you and you to it.

How you feel and think is the only thing that you have control of. With that knowledge, you can have the person of your dreams. That person is waiting for you just as much as you are waiting for them. Let’s get into alignment so you can be with that person you want.

When you plan for a vacation you get organized in your thoughts. You get pictures of the place’s you’re going to. You make reservations. You make a list of all the things you are bringing. You board your dog, etc. You’re not going someplace that you think is impossible to get to, right? So you’re thinking and the place that you’re going to is in alignment.

What about attracting a person that you have never met before, is the process the same? Yes it is! The approach is different, the alignment is the same. In your mind fast forward to after the date has ended and feel the satisfaction of how well it went. See yourself laughing, have an endless conversation where you feel really connected with this person. You are having a really fun time. You see yourself after the date, and you are smiling, awaiting the next date. You have to focus your attention there; this is where you want to be, it’s called deliberate creation.

Make up your own idea and vision of what you want, this is only an example. The point is, you want to feel that feeling so it is so real that it will manifest before you. You will draw it in because you feel it, and you believe it.

Before long and with practice you won’t leave your house until you have decided in your mind how you want your day to go. Don’t pay too much attention to the details; those will work themselves out for you. Only think and feel of the important aspects of what you want.

I encourage you to read my other articles. This is a process that will never end. You will improve in all areas of your life, and life will deliver to you the things and people you want according to how you feel and think about yourself.

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Falling in Love-What Love is, And How to Fall in Love

Being in love is so good for you. Often when people are newly in love, things that have been bothering them for a long time seem to get better, or go away. Something wonderful is calling the majority of their attention now, so they’re holding themselves in a better place. They believe in possibilities they use to think were impossible. Their whole world seems to change. Colors seem brighter, and the problems of the world don’t seem so terrible anymore.

This almost sounds like Eden! And actually it is Eden in a sort of way. You experience that wonderful feeling in your mind, and your body is a reflection of that thinking. You seem to forget about your aches and pains, or maybe most of it was in your mind anyway? Maybe because your focus is somewhere else now! Ah! Almost like a miracle isn’t it? Those are the benefits of falling in love.

The health benefits are astounding! Your body actually transforms itself according to how you feel. Maybe love is the cure for all diseases? It’s too bad we couldn’t feel this good all the time. It makes you wonder if most diseases are the result of an absence of love.

I want to tell you a story about my friend Eve. She went through a life changing transformation when she found her true love. I remember when Eve had just gotten out of a very dysfunctional relationship. She was slumped over, shoulders forward, and she looked aged. She was an attractive soft spoken lady in her early fifties. At the time, I wasn’t attracted to her because I thought she didn’t fit the physical profile I was looking for…..so I thought!

Eve was a good conversationalist; we had some very inspiring talks. She seemed like such a nice person, and I felt empathy for her. I was sad that she attracted jerks into her life, and that she was treaded with disrespect. She admitted she had low self-esteem and felt lonely.

A few months past and there was no sign of Eve. It seemed as though she just disappeared, and I missed our talks. The next time I saw Eve, I didn’t recognize her because she had changed so much. When we spoke again I asked her what she had been up to. She went on to tell me her story about how she met this guy, and how wonderful their relationship was going. She said she got to a point where she had given up dating and decided she was going to be single for the rest of her life. At that point when she stopped trying, within one week, she found who she was looking for. She just gave up, or you can say she let go.

Eve looked fantastic! Everything about her was different, and she looked ten years younger. She actually bounced when she walked, her whole face lit up with a glow. It was as if Eve was a totally different person inside and out. At that moment, I felt an attraction to her. I then realized that it wasn’t the physical part of her I wasn’t attracted to at first; it was more on an energy level. I just wanted to hug her and not let go, because on another level I felt good being close to her.

That’s what it’s all about, feeling good when you’re in the company of someone else. It doesn’t really matter who they are or what they look like, as long as you feel good together is what counts. We don’t need to analyze or understand love. We need to feel it! We feel incomplete without it, so we know love is necessary for our survival.

Couples that have recently fallen in love tend to ignore certain personality traits or flaws that would normally be considered annoying. They only see the best part of that person. Wouldn’t it be nice if that feeling or absence of judgment was everlasting?

What do we want most when we fall in love? We want to feel good, accepted, admired, and complimented; it’s all about us isn’t it? That person we are falling in love with is doing all the right things to fulfill our wants and needs, but they can’t keep it up forever! And when they can’t any longer, the blame, judgment and resentment begin.

When we expect another person to make us happy and fill our needs, then we are in for a very disappointing relationship. When a relationship starts to crumble, let’s face it, it’s because you’re not getting your needs met… right?  And it’s not the responsibility of the other person to keep you happy. Your needs are just what they are, they’re your needs! You own them.

Hypothetically, if there was such a person that was passionate about life, satisfied and happy about their job and what they do, and accepting and secure within themselves, would they be more accepting of their partner? What do you think?

Another person can give you cause for happiness, but if you are depending on them for your happiness then you are subject to their control. Not intentionally at first, but it becomes too much of a strain and responsibility for them to maintain your happiness, and theirs. Eventually, a separation is inevitable to allow both sides a break, to clear their minds, and maybe, hopefully, a reconciliation.

Try to improve in one area of your life where you feel good about yourself and see how your relationships change. Work on self-esteem and accepting yourself, even if you’re not accepted by others. You got it right, keep that focus on yourself, but this time do it with self-confidence and self-reliance. When you have reached the point of believing in yourself and loving yourself, then you have found real love, and that’s worth giving to your partner.

You’re not expected to be perfect, and I know some relationships aren’t meant to be, for whatever  reason. Sometimes we grow in different directions and sometimes one person glows more than the other. Abusive relationships are unhealthy for everyone involved, and it’s wise to not be a part of it. Do the best you can and know there is always a solution.

Good luck!

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